I help you heal your broken relationship with yourself

You know the voice. The one that looks in the mirror and calls you fat. Ugly. Disgusting. The one that takes your deepest insecurity and lines it up next to everyone else's highlight reel, then hands you the verdict: they're better, you're behind, you're not enough. The one that has you hating the body that carries you through every single day, apologizing for existing to people who have never once apologized to you.

Everyone told you it was an inner critic problem. An anxiety problem. A confidence problem. A body image problem. It's none of those. Those are symptoms. The root is the relationship you have with yourself, and every one of those struggles grows out of it.

Here's what I know, because I lived it. That voice is not your personality. It's programming. You learned it, which means you can outgrow it, and it does not get to keep the driver's seat.

I didn't just study the psychology of why we abandon ourselves. I studied how to truly love yourself, and then I lived it, all the way from severe self-hatred to loving myself unapologetically and unconditionally. I know the whole road because I walked it. Now I help you walk it too. Not by managing the symptoms one by one, but by healing it where it actually starts.

We heal at the root.

Find Your Root

Free. 15 minutes. Find out what's been running the root of your broken relationship with yourself.

Alexis
The Real Reason Nothing Has Changed

You already know better. So why doesn't it change?

You self-sabotage right when things start going well, and you can watch yourself do it in real time.
You've read the books. You know your patterns. You can name your attachment style at a party. And nothing has actually changed.

That last one is the most painful, isn't it? Because if awareness were enough, you'd be free by now.

Here's what nobody told you: awareness lives in your mind. The pattern lives deeper. That's why you can't think your way out of it. And it's exactly where my work begins.

Feel It, Don't Just Read It

Three breaths, right now

Most coaching sites tell you about nervous system regulation. Let me show you instead. Press the circle. Follow it for three breaths. Notice what shifts.

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That tiny drop you just felt in your shoulders? That was your vagus nerve getting the safety signal. Three breaths did that. Now imagine what happens when your entire nervous system finally learns that YOU are safe to be with.

That's the Body pillar. And it's one third of the work.

Find Your Root
My Story

From Broken to Embodied

Alexis in nature

I've been through addiction, toxic relationships, disordered eating, and mental health struggles, and rebuilt a life rooted in self-love and wellness.

At 20, most people don't have the self-awareness to see what's broken. I did. And instead of staying there, I did the hard work. I rewired the voice. I learned what boundaries actually mean. I built a life where healing isn't just something I talk about, it's something I live.

Now I'm a mindset and self-love coach turning that hard-won wisdom into a blueprint for others. I know the broken relationship with yourself is the root cause of everything downstream. The inner critic. The people-pleasing. The self-sabotage. All of it stems from how you treat yourself.

I'm not just teaching theory. I'm embodying the transformation and inviting women to do the same. That's what makes this work different.

I'm not telling you this so you'll be impressed. I'm telling you because if you're anywhere near where I was, I need you to know the way out exists. I've walked it.

"If I could look at my soul before, it was darkness. Now it's color."
Kennedy Pilon, client
The 3-Pillar Blueprint

Mind, Body, Soul

Remember how awareness wasn't enough? This is why. The pattern was installed in three places, so it has to be healed in three places. Miss one and it grows back.

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Mind

Rewire the subconscious beliefs installed when you were young. Your inner critic isn't truth. It's programming. And programming can be changed.

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Body

Your nervous system is holding the trauma. Somatic practices, breathwork, and vagal activation teach your body it's safe again. Healing happens here.

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Soul

Become the real version of you through aligned action. Not affirmations. Real choices. Real decisions. Embodied daily. This is where she emerges.

Every offer I have is built on these three pillars. The only question is how deep you want to go.

The Mind Pillar, Live

This is the actual work. Same moment, two voices. The critic was installed. The ally gets built. That rewiring is the Mind pillar, and it's exactly what we do together.

Your Path to Freedom

Start Where You Are

Not sure? Start with The Root Finder, my free self-assessment. It shows you exactly which pattern is running you, and I'll point you to the right next step from there. No guessing, no pressure.

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Free Self-Assessment

The Root Finder

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15 minutes. You'll find out which of the 12 root patterns is running your life. Most women say the result reads like someone's been inside their head.

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Community

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Join a community of women doing the real inner work. Monthly group calls included.

 Where to Start
Self-Guided Experience

Custom Healing Blueprint

$37

In about 15 minutes on your phone, you regulate your nervous system, rewrite the belief running you, and walk away with a plan you'll actually keep. Instant access.

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Live Masterclass

The Root Reset

$97 · $67 for the first 10 each call

A 90-minute live masterclass that takes you from knowing your pattern to naming your root and knowing exactly how to heal it. Mind, body, and soul. Sign up for the next live call.

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Self Love at the Root

$3,000 · payment plans available

The transformation. 6 weeks. Live 1-on-1 coaching. The complete embodied experience, one on one with me.
Still Not Sure?

Find your fit in three questions

Answer honestly and I'll point you to the one that meets you where you actually are.

Ready to Start?

You've seen the work. Now choose your way in. From The Root Finder, my free self-assessment, to deep 1-on-1 coaching, there's a right next step for exactly where you are.

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The Root Finder

Get clarity on exactly where your self-relationship is broken. 10 deep questions. 15 minutes. One result made just for you.

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Lovely Ladies GC

Free community of women doing the real work

What This Really Is

A private Slack community where women building a real relationship with themselves show up, get vulnerable, share wins, and support each other through the actual work.

This isn't a course. It's not content. It's real people doing the hard inner work, and you get to be part of that. You get access to me. You get monthly group coaching calls. You get a crew of women who actually get it.

Who This Is For

This IS For You If:

  • You need community and accountability to do the work
  • You're tired of doing this alone
  • You want direct access to me and real support
  • You're ready to show up and be vulnerable with women who get it
  • You can't invest money yet but you can invest time and presence

This Is NOT For You If:

  • You're looking for a pre-recorded course with structure
  • You prefer self-study over community interaction
  • You're not ready to engage with others
  • You need more intensive 1-on-1 coaching

The Pain Points This Solves

  • Doing this work alone and feeling isolated
  • Not having anyone who actually understands what you're going through
  • Lacking accountability to keep showing up for yourself
  • Wanting direct support but not being able to afford 1-on-1 coaching yet
  • Feeling like you're the only one struggling with this

What You'll Experience After Joining

  • Real community with women doing the actual inner work
  • Accountability from women who care about your transformation
  • Direct access to me through Slack and monthly calls
  • Witnessing other women's transformations and getting inspired
  • Feeling less alone in the struggle

What's Included

  • Private Slack community (active and supportive)
  • Monthly group coaching calls with me (60 min)
  • Direct Slack access to ask questions and get support
  • A space to share wins, struggles, and breakthroughs
  • Connection with women doing the same work

Your Community Includes

  • Private Slack Community - Active, real women doing the actual work. Not a ghost town.
  • Monthly 60-Min Group Calls with Me - Direct access. Real coaching. Real transformation.
  • 24/7 Slack Support - Ask questions anytime. Get support when you need it most.
  • Safe Space to Be Vulnerable - Share your wins, struggles, and breakthroughs with women who get it.
  • Women Doing the Work - Witness real transformations. Build real connections. Feel less alone.
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The Root Reset

A live masterclass. Ninety minutes to find your root and the direction that heals it.

What This Really Is

A 90-minute live masterclass where I walk you through the exact framework I use with private clients. This is deep clarity work, not a lecture. You map your broken relationship with yourself across three pillars: your beliefs (Mind), your nervous system safety (Body), and where you are performing instead of living as your real self (Soul).

By the end, you name the specific root pattern running your self-abandonment. Not the voice in your head. The belief system beneath it. Then you get the order to heal it in and the first move you make this week.

It runs live once a month with real-time Q&A, and you can sign up for the next call anytime. You get lifetime replay access, so it is yours forever.

Who This Is For

This IS For You If:

  • You have done the reading, the journaling, and the affirmations, and none of it held
  • You can feel something underneath pulling you back to the same patterns
  • You are willing to write down a true answer, not a flattering one
  • You want the cause named, even if naming it stings
  • You want the foundational understanding before committing to anything else

This Is NOT For You If:

  • You want a routine to follow rather than a cause to face
  • You are looking for reassurance that nothing needs to change
  • You are in active crisis and need clinical support first. This is education, not therapy
  • You want the insight without doing anything differently afterward

The Pain Points This Solves

  • Knowing something is wrong but not understanding the root
  • Feeling overwhelmed by where to even start
  • Wanting transformation but not knowing which path to take
  • Having information overload from free content but no cohesive framework
  • Needing immediate tools you can use today, not sometime in the future

What You'll Experience After

  • Deep understanding of your 3-pillar self-relationship breakdown
  • Clarity on exactly what's been running your life
  • Immediate somatic practices you can use to regulate your nervous system
  • A roadmap for what your transformation actually looks like
  • The beginning of real, embodied change (not just intellectual knowing)

What's Included

  • 90-minute live masterclass with real-time Q&A
  • Self-Relationship Assessment Workbook (21 pages)
  • 3-Level Healing Framework Reference Guide
  • Lifetime replay access (watch anytime, anywhere)

Your Bonuses

  • 90-Minute Live Masterclass - The complete framework, taught live, that takes you from stuck to your root named
  • Self-Relationship Assessment Workbook - 21 pages of deep work to understand exactly where you're broken
  • 3-Level Healing Framework Guide - Your reference guide for understanding Mind, Body, and Soul
  • Live Q&A - Ask about your specific patterns in real time on the call
  • Lifetime Replay Access - Watch, re-watch, return whenever you need it. This is yours forever.
"Your videos are actually so inspirational and will be so helpful to young girls out there who need the extra support. Being a role model of light and true positivity is so important."
Bri Bryar
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Custom Healing Blueprint

A guided self-relationship reset you can feel in your body

What This Really Is

The Custom Healing Blueprint takes you into the three places your struggle actually lives, your body, mind, and soul.

In about fifteen minutes, on your phone, you answer honestly and the experience meets you exactly where you are. Your body gets a regulating tool matched to what your nervous system is doing right now, timed and guided so you know it landed. Your mind finds the belief that has been quietly running you, and you rewrite it on the spot into something true and present. Then you get clear on the woman you are becoming, and you walk away with a plan small enough to actually keep.

This is self love work that respects your time and your intelligence. No fluff, no toxic positivity, no one talking at you. Just you, coming home to yourself.

You are worth this level of care, and the whole thing is yours the moment you tap below.

What's Inside

  • A personalized nervous system regulation exercise matched to your current state
  • A guided subconscious belief rewrite
  • Identity work that helps you reconnect with the woman you're becoming
  • A personalized action plan with 3 daily habits and 1 big action step to help you build real momentum
  • Instant access in under 15 minutes

You deserve a relationship with yourself that feels safe.
Let's start there.

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Self Love at the Root

The complete 6-week transformation, one on one with me

What This Really Is

The flagship. 6 weeks of live 1-on-1 coaching. A complete container where you don't just understand what's broken, you actually rebuild your relationship with yourself from the ground up.

You work directly with me. We go deep into your specific patterns. We rewire your beliefs. We regulate your nervous system. We rebuild your identity. This is the transformation program.

Who This Is For

This IS For You If:

  • You're ready to fully commit to transforming your life
  • You want personalized coaching, not a one-size-fits-all program
  • You're willing to invest significantly in yourself
  • You thrive with accountability and direct support
  • You're tired of half-measures and want complete transformation

This Is NOT For You If:

  • You're not ready to commit fully to the work
  • You prefer self-paced learning without live interaction
  • You're testing the waters before committing
  • You need more time to decide if this is the right fit

The Pain Points This Solves

  • Trying everything solo and still feeling stuck
  • Needing someone to see your specific patterns and call them out
  • Wanting accountability you can't get any other way
  • Being tired of the surface-level work that doesn't create real change
  • Knowing transformation is possible but not knowing how to make it happen

What You'll Experience After 6 Weeks

  • Complete rewiring of your core beliefs about yourself
  • A nervous system that actually feels safe
  • A relationship with yourself built on respect and love, not criticism
  • Clear identity of who you actually are underneath all the conditioning
  • Daily choices that align with your real self, not your wounded self

What's Included

  • 6x weekly 60-minute 1-on-1 coaching calls with me
  • Voxer or messaging support between calls, so you're never doing it alone
  • Comprehensive workbook (Mind, Body, Soul deep work)
  • Private community access (6 weeks + 90 days post-program)
  • Includes Root Reset Live Masterclass + all bonuses
  • Lifetime access to all recorded content and materials

Your Bonuses

  • 6x Weekly 1-on-1 Coaching Calls - Direct access to me for personalized guidance tailored to your specific patterns and needs
  • Between-Call Support - Messaging access to me between sessions so momentum never stalls
  • Comprehensive Workbook - Deep work across Mind, Body, and Soul pillars with exercises you'll use for life
  • Private Community Access - 6 weeks + 90 days of post-program support. You're not alone in this.
  • Root Reset Live Masterclass + All Bonuses - Everything from the live masterclass included to deepen your foundation
  • Lifetime Access - All recordings, workbooks, and materials are yours forever. Refer back anytime you need it.

Payment Options

  • Full payment: $3,000
  • Monthly: 3 payments of $1,000
  • Biweekly: 6 payments of $500
  • Weekly: 12 payments of $250
"Working with Alexis, I have seen growth in areas of my life that I once imagined impossible. Her natural gift to see, touch, and then guide in transforming the deepest parts of you is truly special."
Anonymous
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Choose Your Path

Five offers, one goal: healing your broken relationship with yourself

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The Root Finder

Get clarity on exactly where your self-relationship is broken in 15 minutes

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Free community of women doing the real work

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Custom Healing Blueprint

Regulate, rewrite, and reconnect in about 15 minutes. Your next step after The Root Finder.

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The Root Reset

A 90-minute live masterclass. Find your root and the direction that heals it. Sign up for the next call.

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Self Love at the Root

The complete 6-week transformation, one on one with me. Payment plans available.

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My Story: Why I Do This Work

From the bottom to embodying real transformation

Alexis in Sedona

The Bottom

I was suicidal. Severely depressed. I ran away from home because being there felt like suffocation, and being anywhere else felt like drowning. I hated myself. I hated my life. I hated the person looking back at me in the mirror.

The pain was unbearable. The kind that makes you look for any exit. I was in toxic relationships where I gave everything and got crumbs in return, convinced that's what I deserved. I abused my body with disordered eating because controlling what I consumed felt like the only control I had left. I starved myself. I binged. I punished myself through food because hating my body was easier than hating my life.

So I numbed it all. Drugs, alcohol, whatever could take the edge off the unbearable pain of existing in my own skin. I'd use to feel something other than emptiness. I'd use to escape the voice in my head telling me I was worthless. I'd use because the alternative was sitting alone with how much I hated myself, and that felt like dying anyway.

I was isolated. I was ashamed. I was convinced I was fundamentally broken in a way that couldn't be fixed. The relationships I was in mirrored what I believed about myself. That I wasn't worthy of real love, of respect, of being treated well. I accepted crumbs because I didn't believe I deserved the whole meal. I abandoned myself so completely that I became my own worst enemy. And every day I woke up hating the girl in the mirror a little bit more.

That's what the bottom looked like. Not just sad. Not just struggling. Actively wanting to die. Actively destroying myself. For a long time, that's what survival looked like.

The False Solutions

People told me to fake it till I make it. Think positive. Go to therapy. So I did. I went to therapy. I tried the affirmations. I tried the gratitude practices. I tried the mindset shifts. And none of it stuck because I was building on a foundation of sand. I was still hating myself. I was still broken at the root. You can't think your way out of a problem you feel your way into, and nobody was helping me feel the truth: that I didn't believe I deserved to be here. That I wasn't good enough. That love was conditional and I'd never earn it.

The Breakthrough

Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix my thoughts and started healing my relationship with myself. I realized the inner critic, the people-pleasing, the self-abandonment, the addiction, the disordered eating, the toxic relationships. None of that was the problem. Those were all symptoms. The root was that I'd abandoned myself so completely that I'd become my own enemy. The moment I started treating myself the way I'd treat someone I loved, everything shifted. Not overnight. But real. Nervous system work. Somatic release. Naming the beliefs I'd inherited and the ones I'd built to survive. Rewiring what it meant to be worthy just because I exist.

Why I Do This

At 20, I'm not supposed to have this much clarity. But I came through the other side, and now I know the blueprint. I know what breaks women. I know it's not their inner critic. It's the broken relationship with themselves. I know toxic positivity and therapy alone won't fix it. I know you have to heal at the root.

So I'm a mindset and self-love coach because I can't not be. I'm teaching women what took me years to learn: that the relationship you have with yourself is the foundation for everything else. That self-abandonment is the real problem. That you don't need more tactics. You need to rewire who you believe you are and then embody that daily until it becomes non-negotiable.

I'm not just teaching theory. I walked through suicidal ideation, addiction, severe depression, self-hatred, disordered eating, and toxic relationships to get here. I know what it feels like to want to die. I know what it feels like to be on the other side of that. And I'm here to show women there's another way. Not just intellectually, but somatically, through how I move through the world, and through the way I actually live.

That's what makes this work different. I'm not selling you a framework. I'm showing you a woman who embodies what's possible when you finally fall in love with yourself.

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Real Transformations

What women are experiencing on the other side of healing their relationship with themselves

If I could look at my soul before, it was darkness. Now it's color.
Kennedy Pilon
Working with Alexis, I have seen growth in areas of my life that I once imagined impossible. Her natural gift to see, touch, and then guide in transforming the deepest parts of you is truly special.
Anonymous
She doesn't just teach mindset. She shows you how to embody it. The difference is everything. I'm not the same person I was three months ago.
Anonymous
Alexis has a gift for creating a safe space where you can actually do the deep work. No judgment. No toxic positivity. Just real transformation happening in real time.
Bri Bryar
The way she moves through the world is proof that what she teaches actually works. She's not just telling you it's possible. She's living it.
Sam Wilcken
I came in broken. I came out rebuilt. But more than that, I came out knowing exactly who I am and why that matters. That's the gift.
Ro Singha
Now Picture Yours

She already exists

You just read what's possible for other women. Here's the truth: the woman you're trying to become isn't someone you have to build from scratch. She's already in there, underneath the criticism, the pleasing, the shrinking. Tell me your name and the one thing you're most tired of carrying, and let me show you who's waiting on the other side.

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